when chicago breaks 50 degrees in the winter months it is like God is saying being patient spring will come! Honestly, you can get so depressed here with no sun and negative temps. We are in the home stretch!!! This week we had some warm weather and it was amazing. We went to Maggie Daley & hung out with my cute friend Madi and her son, Mason. Side note, I tinted my own eyebrows following this gal's tutorial, Mikelle Kennedy. It was a little scary but I definitely am excited to be able to do this myself!
brunch at the Promontory, quick play in the snow and a fun stay at the intercontinental hotel to go swimming with jack.
I found this quote yesterday & it embodied exactly how I feel love should feel.
“You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.”
- Thich Nhat Hahn
That unconditional love is so important in a marriage and in any relationship. I am going to strive to be more unconditional and freeing in the love I give to others. I just want to let it flow from me. I don't want to give them expectations, check lists and impossible demands for them to earn my love. I want Chris and Jack to be them, who they truly are, and see that like our Heavenly Parents do. See them and love them and therefore free them. Jack and I visited our valentine downtown and had a picnic in his office.
shop the look
5 tips for shopping on ASOS
1. Filter Filter Filter
Use all the filters available. Get rid of any colors you don't like to wear. Choose your size. Style you are looking for. Style/length/etc. Price range. Choose the collections that apply to you (maternity, petite, main, tall, curve, etc.)
2. Get ASOS Premier
Literally the best thing you can do. Your clothes arrive in 2 days for only $20 a year. I can't tell you how many times I needed a dress or outfit for an event or wedding and had procrastinated... Nothing was at the mall or I was too lazy to go look. I order not kidding, 5-10 dresses on premier and then I send back the rest for free. IT IS SO WORTH IT. Open the bags properly to make it super easy to send back.
3. Buy Multiple Sizes/Use Model Sizing/Video Feature
Until you have found your groove in the ASOS sizing by multiple sizes. The returns are free and if you are unsure about what size to get buy both! Pay attention to the models sizes that are written in the product description. It gives the model's height and size to help you for reference. Watch the videos! asos uploads a movie for each product so you can see it's actual color and it moving!
4. Use the Save for Later Feature
I save so so so many things and go back and often find they are on sale a month later!
5. Promo Codes/Discounts
Look out on their website for sales and promotions. If you are a student you can apply for a 10% discount on the entire purchase. (clearance items excluded)
I recently started an Instagram account devoted to my ASOS finds. I post the amazing deals and then link them to my site! I am an asos addict. Most find asos very overwhelming because of the extreme amount of inventory but I find it like a rewarding treasure hunt. I can’t buy all or even most the stuff I find... but maybe you can. I’m a CHEAP-O so most if not all will be under $50 if not under $25
Shop The Look
My cute friend Anna started an amazing blog/shop based on french style! It's called Partager and it is gorgeous. Super classic pieces that are great quality and really do feel french. Scarf & Sunglasses are Partager. I love supporting small businesses and plan to be buying from her for a long time.
Use code: JANIE10 at www.partager.co for 10 % off!
my lil sis Liz Sauce came to town this past week! She and her sis in law, Shaye, went and saw hamilton the first night and the rest of the time we just hung with jack and explored. We had a blast.
Ended up hanging at the zoo with an old friend, exploring the houses in our neighborhood and having a spontaneous fire pit at the lake.
This week was especially hard because Chris had a very busy work week. One night he didn't come home till 5:30 AM!!! Yikes. Anyway, we tried to make the best of it. Did lots of laundry, cleaning and just enjoyed the "warmer" weather.
Walked around little Mexico in Pilsen on a mural hunt. 28th and Hamblin in Pilsen.
In light of the current uproar on instagram over the harmful effects of what bloggers/influencers and everyone posts. I felt a need to put a simple response in. I've been quoting Brene Brown a lot lately. She's honestly my other bible....
Where do I fit in on instagram? Am I a part of the problem or the solution? As someone who enjoys creating beautiful photos I ask that question often. As everyone else I have definitely felt the weight of comparison on instagram. Feelings of inadequacy and self doubt are real and familiar.
true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
- Brene Brown
I promise to quit judging & start accepting others for what they truly are and in return I hope you’ll do the same. Because all I really want from instagram is for you to post what makes you happy or strong or proud or sad or hurt or loved. I want to see the highs and the lows even if the lows are just in your stories. I want you to follow who you want and unfollow those who don’t help you be you. Just keep doing you. However that may be.
whatever your circumstance, you are a product of their love. you were put in your specific place because they need you there. I pray everyday not only to know how to become like our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ but also our Mother in heaven. They can make more of us than we can make of ourselves. I feel God’s love as I find my purpose. It continually changes and shapes itself into something different but the love I feel is the same. 💙 also this blue door on my walk home from church made me smile.
just a little leisurely walk around the most beautiful campus. we had to get outside since it got about 30 degrees!
4 years ago I walked into marriage with what some would call a naïveté. I would agree with that for the most part. I would probably call it more of a blind faith. But, in a way, I'm glad I had that faith and optimism. If I were more cynical and logical I probably would have passed up on Chris. I was 19 and many people thought it was a mistake. What a relief that I listened to my heart and that my heavenly parents gave me confidence in my decision.
I've learned over the years that marriage genuinely is one of the most difficult and rewarding experiences. Like any important thing, it comes with an array of emotions and experiences. Similarly to your relationship with God, your spouse knows ALL your flaws, shortcomings and secrets. One may find it difficult to love someone when knowing all the other's imperfections. I would say that is not the difficult part. The difficult part is letting your spouse love you for EVERYTHING that you are when you know you're imperfect. Being vulnerable by telling them when you fall short, sharing the pain you feel and apologizing for the hurt you may have caused. In our brokenness and honesty that is where the love is in our relationship.
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
- Brene Brown
I love that Chris has helped me in becoming my best self. He sees me how God sees me, the good & the bad. The instagram self and the sweatpant-wearing, house a mess self. He has pushed me when I needed it and held me tight when needed it. These four years have been both amazing and mundane, comfortable and uncomfortable, joyful and sorrowful, easy and difficult and many more opposites.
I am so grateful for the partnership we have formed and have loved being married to Chris for the last four years. All I keep saying in my head is "4 more years! 4 more years!"
So in honor of our 4th anniversary, I thought I'd share a few photos from my favorite moments this last year as well as some photos of our wedding day.
Highlights from this Year:
Moved to Chicago | Jack turned one | Cruise to Carribean | LP & Oceanside | New Friendships | Hosting many visitors in Chi Town | survived 5 weeks a part | Fam trip to Portland | 30 Bday trip to Scottsdale | Reliving our first date at March Madness | Christmas with our Families | New traditions | So many sporting events | 2 months of the mustache
Feels like yesterday even though we look like 12 year olds.
My best friends & their darling men came to visit us over the long weekend. I warned them it would be cold but they still came and we had an absolute blast. Rain or shine I can depend on these dudes for a rad time.
New Year's Resolutions have been a tradition in my fam since I can remember. It honestly is one of my favorite things we do and I just love the season after Christmas. I love the chance to refocus, gather yourself & get ready to kick some butt in the new year.
What we do:
Trace our hand and create a visual representation of our goals. I have a hand goal sheet that was from when I was 5 with handwriting that was illegible. Jack has them now and it's so fun to see his hand already growing.
You then create a goal for each finger and palm area if you'd like. Each goal should focus on a different aspect of your life. Here are the ones we use generally.
Social | Personal | Academic | Financial | Spiritual | Physical | Spousal
At the end of the year we bring our goals to a family dinner and share how they went, what worked, what didn't etc. My mom and us decide if the goal was completed. If the goal was completed you get 5 bucks. It's awesome.
Here are mine for this year.
1. Spiritual - Read the Book Of Mormon with the #thebookofmormonproject
2. Social - Listen. Talk Less, ask more questions
3. Personal - Make (x) amount of money in freelance
4. Spousal - Go on at least one getaway/vacation with just Chris & I
5. Financial - Create a monthly budget and stick to it
BONUS - Create a focus word for the year. Something that you can center around and keep as a little reminder to help you improve.
My 2018 Focus Word: Outstretch
past tense: outstretched; past participle: outstretched
extend or stretch out (something, especially a hand or arm).
"I walked with my arms outstretched"
go beyond the limit of.
"their good intentions far outstretched their capacity to offer help"
I want to offer more help, go further in relationships & dive deeper into the word of the Lord. I want to go past my limit and do things that make me uncomfortable. Because I know that's where I grow.
Our Christmas break was absolutely fantastic!! Utah and Idaho with our fams was much needed.
We had Christmas early with Jack so we didn't have to haul his gifts back and forth between Chicago and Salt Lake since we will be in Utah over actual Christmas. We had a blast! Having Christmas with a kid is so stinking fun.
Christmas Eve consisted of jammies, the Grinch, putting together our neighbor gifts, Christmas stories, reading Luke 2 and a dance party to our Christmas Cheer playlist.
Christmas morning consisted of lots of claps, laughs, tears, blocks, ribbon and a yummy breakfast.
The Black and White wrapping paper you see I created! I wanted some Christ centered wrapping paper this year. So I made my own with my handwriting! It says “Come adore on bended knee, Christ the Lord the newborn King!
Date night turned into a mini photoshoot at the park.
The Wrigley Building has such gorgeous Christmas decorations. Lucky for us it was 50 outside that day!